Why do married men visit escorts and prostitutes?

Why do married men visit escorts and prostitutes? The escort service is booming in the UK. Prostitution might be illegal, but that hasn't stopped 1 in 10 men paying for sex over the last ten years. And it turns out that a fair percentage of t​hese men are actually married.


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There is a myriad of reasons why a married man, in particular, might visit an escort. Do a small amount of Googling, and you find the answers you expect. An unhappy marriage, a sexless relationship, loneliness, they want to try new and exciting things their wife doesn't. As part of a study conducted by the BBC in 2014 about why husbands visit escorts, they interviewed several men who had visited prostitutes or escorts in the past. Despite those involved all giving different answers, the reasons they provided all followed a general self-centred trend displaying a complete lack of awareness or compassion for the workers of the escort service they were using. In one instance, Graham gives a sickeningly obtuse answer: "We had sex, but I looked down into her eyes, and she couldn't focus. And I realised at that time I was having sex with a drug addict. I felt just ghastly." So maybe, the reason is more societal. Hollywood, adverts, TV shows, all mainstream pop culture for the last few decades have been skewed in the direction of men. The male gaze is real and present. From an early age, men are raised on free pornography, laughed at for confronting their own emotions and taught that they could have what they want when they want, all they need is money. It's capitalism baby, all wrapped up in a pretty bow made of toxic masculinity. It all led to sexual dissatisfaction and suppressed emotions, instead of talking to their wives, husbands will look elsewhere for comfort, and they find the arms of escorts — people who paid to give them and tell them precisely​ what they want. But without any of the responsibility that comes with a real relationship. And because it's a capitalist society, worker's right is of secondary importance; the customer is always right.


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