It has been pretty well established over the last decade that gender and sexuality are a spectrum, rather than a simple absolute. The acronym that encompasses the LGBT community is ever-growing at a rate hitherto unheard of amongst acronyms and currently stands as LGBTTQQIAAP although this is still considered to be excluding some members of said community. But, we aren’t here to discuss the labels as such. We are here to answer the question as to whether a straight man who has a sexual experience with a Thai ladyboy is bisexual? First, some background: As you are no doubt well aware the sex trade in Thailand is a booming industry. With an estimated 200,000 prostitutes currently working, producing somewhere between $2.5 and $4 billion every year. The ‘ladyboy’ sex worker has become synonymous with Thailand. But despite their popularity, they are still referred to by this offensive label rather than the more widely accepted ‘transgender women’. But, I digress. The question of whether a straight man is bi-sexual if they enter into a sexual relationship with a transgender woman is a complex one that seemingly has a simple answer...which is yes; they are bi-sexual. However, some believe that if you are, to quote New Zealand comedy duo Flight of the Conchords, ‘pretending they're a woman’ then how can that be gay, or in this case, bi-sexual? Many British immigrants pursue relations with Thai transgender women, men who by all accounts seem like stereotypical British heteros, so are they bi-sexual? Latent perhaps? Does it really matter? Identity is of paramount importance, as is tolerance and acceptance, in the modern-day world but is labelling so important? The liberal left used to hate labels, yet now every sub-section of every sub-section of society requires an acronym label. So, I ask you if a straight man has a sexual experience with a Thai ladyboy does that make him bisexual? Probably, yes, but why does it matter? Perhaps we should just live and let live, as it were, instead of querying people's lives.
Answer by: Jon